How can someone with bipolar help their family through bereavement?

[Daria: 3rd Y!A b'day.]

My mum came back from Africa where she was for three weeks. She buried her only brother and it's been quite hard being around her. She doesn't sleep, talk much, or anything. I know this must be hard on her but it has been hard on me too. Yet again I have to ignore my own issues and bipolar to take care and comfort her (last year my sis died and same thing happened). What do I do to keep myself as cool as possible and feel willing to get out of bed to help her instead of avoiding her?
Ignoring my own problems makes things worse and affects my life in so many ways. I have run away from pain before and the consequences weren't pretty.
My mum is against medication that's why I'm not on any.

[peppergreenwell]

It sounds like you may need to be on some bipolar medication and your mother could stand to be on an antidepressant to help u both get through this hard time.