Husband in Navy is not providing financial support for his family?

Janet W · #1 11-11-2009, 10:08 PM

My husband is in the Navy stationed in Norfolk, VA and about to graduate for C School. We have two boys that are 2 years and 4 months old. I am a stay at home mom because I cannot afford daycare. He left for boot camp back in May and since then he has sent me little to NO money. I am barely surviving and do not have a permanent residence. No money for diapers, wipes, medicines etc. I understand that he is receiving housing allowance of $1,300 plus dependent pay and separation pay. He is pocketing everything and basically lying to the Navy. He asked me to pack up my belongings which was not easy and move up there with him. The Navy deposited the money for the move which was a huge amount and that same day he backed out and told me he did not want me to move over there after all. He has filed for divorce and canceled it then re filed again. My question is who can I contact about him not supporting our children financially?

ROB · #2 11-11-2009, 10:08 PM

Theres always two sides to a story,,, what did you do?... it really doesnt matter, if you guys split he will pay child support,,, they will make him,,, remember child support is for THE CHILDREN,,, it doesnt support YOU... you need to find out what you are going to do with your life... hopefully you guys are going to do whats best for the kids.

Kojak · #3 11-11-2009, 10:22 PM

Inform this jerk.....in a nice way.... that you have proof that he has neglected his responsibilities as a FATHER and a husband.... and unless he does the right thing and provides for his family.... You will write letter to his ENTIRE chain of command ....from the Base Commander down to his unit commander....you will write the Base Chaplin....and the Inspector General..... and you will send a copy of those letters to your Congressman.......

(NOTE: Think twice before you actually do this.... anything bad happens to him....happens to you....but you are getting NOTHING now so you can not lose much)

If he fails to comply.... DO IT.... the military does not like irresponsible servicemen who do not take care of their children....

SARAH.... Phone call.... not a good idea..... there are only two effective ways to confront.... When possibly "face to face".... people have trouble disregarding a human.....they can ignore a phone call but not a person.... the second best option is in writing..... with a little note at the bottom saying "CC furnished...." When someone knows their boss is getting a copy they generally do not ignore the missive